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Isaiah 52:4-7
Philippians 2:6-11
Matthew 26:14-27:66

Because we usually have ideal expectations for important people in our lives, I always cautioned my high school marriage course students to be extremely honest about the personality traits of anyone they planned to marry. I took for granted they'd already created a picture of an ideal spouse, complete with a list of characteristics he or she should possess. Problems would arise when they discovered someone who might possess six out of ten of those ideal traits, and they presumed the other four were also there, just below the surface. What happens when they eventually find out those other four never existed?

Some who initially followed Jesus made the same mistake. Looking forward to a Messiah entering their lives, they found some of the biblical and popular traits of this longed for person in the carpenter from Capernaum. He certainly was charismatic, a leader who emphatically reminded his fellow Jews of the things Yahweh expected of them. So they presumed a passion to drive the Roman army of occupation out of Palestine was also part of his psychological makeup. He just hadn't made his political move yet.

Boston College Scripture scholar Pheme Perkins makes an interesting observation in a recent issue of the Bible Today: "The difference between what outsiders say about Jesus and what Christians believe dominates (Matthew's) passion narrative. Until they meet the risen Lord in Galilee, Jesus' disciples are trapped in the middle between their loyalty to Jesus and the popular hope for a powerful messiah king." That means some might even have overlooked his riding a donkey into Jerusalem on this day instead of sitting astride a military leader's mount - a horse. It'll take some time, but he'll eventually live up to their expectations.

Judas was probably the most realistic of Jesus' disciples. Earlier than others, he reasoned Jesus wasn't the person he expected him to be. So he tried at least to make a few bucks off their misdirected relationship.

Even Peter, boasting at the Last Supper, "If I should have to die with you, I will not deny you!" eventually discovers Jesus isn't someone who'll go down - with Peter at his side - physically fighting their enemies. When he claims, "I do not know the man!" he's telling the truth. He obviously believed Jesus was someone he wasn't.

No doubt Jesus' closest friends would have been quite happy had he responded to the "Come down from that cross!" taunts by actually doing so. They could understand a triumphant Messiah; but not one who dies.

According to the evangelist, the only followers who hung with him to the end were ". . . many women . . . looking on at a distance who had followed Jesus from Galilee, ministering to him."

These women seem to be heeding the rest of the advice I offered my marriage course students: Don't dump someone just because he or she doesn't have all ten of your ideal characteristics. In many cases, the qualities they do have might be better for you and your relationship than some of your magic ten.

Those disciples who, like the women, eventually stayed around for that well-known Galilee mountain top encounter, only did so because they began to appreciate that the redemptive suffering Deutero-Isaiah speaks about in our first reading would benefit them infinitely more than kicking Romans out of Jerusalem.

Even more significantly, as Paul reminds his community in Philippi (in a verse unbelievably omitted from today's liturgical reading), "Have among ourselves the same attitude that is also yours in Christ Jesus." Not only are we to admire Jesus' generous emptying of himself, but because we're other Christs we're expected to possess that same generous, but originally unexpected personality trait.

We don't have to live up to other people's expectations as long as we, like Jesus, give them something better than they could possibly have expected.